I am the original bad mom. In fact, I shouldn’t have been a mother. If I had an inkling of what I know now I would’ve joined an organization to become a big sister to children who needed a friend, confidante or tutor rather than giving birth. I was married and pregnant at age 17. I didn’t enjoy being pregnant and I didn’t enjoy motherhood. I was trying to be a nurturer to my son when I was a poor mother and nurturer to myself. I got caught up into having children because of religious, cultural and societal messages that say it’s “the thing” to do. I didn’t ponder that having a vagina and a uterus was giving me a …
Sparkle
Seeing the late singer, Whitney Houston in the movie “Sparkle” wasn’t the reason I cried a river during the movie. I could relate to Houston’s character as an over-bearing, fanatic religious mother. Like my mother, Houston wanted to decide the destiny of what her daughter should be. American Idol’s season six winner Jordin Sparks plays Sparkle, Houston’s daughter, who has a dream to be a famous singer. Houston makes several attempts to kill her daughter’s passion and dream of being a singer. Sparkle refused to give up and she fought her mom and finally freed herself. I transported myself into the movie screen and I became Sparkle. Sparkle’s determination to sing was just as strong as my conviction to speak …
NEW JERSEY HOUSEWIVES
FIGHTING FOR FAMILY The New Jersey Housewives reality show took their dysfunction to a whole new level when a brawl broke out after Teresa Giudice’s brother called her “garbage” at a christening celebration. Okay, I expect adults on these types of reality shows to behave like jerks however to have a thug type street fight in the presence of young children was way off the chart. While watching the chaos I constantly asked myself, “What is the NEED for people to have relationships with toxic family members who disrespect them?” The word NEED is key here. We are programmed to believe that family is the most important thing there is to life because blood is thicker than water. The emotionally …
DIRTY “H” WORDS
It took many years for me to understand words are things and thoughts are things. Caroline Myss is a spiritual teacher who teaches you to understand the power and dynamics of energy. She has an audio program called “Energy Anatomy” that helped me to understand everything is energy before its matter. In our un-evolved world we focus on the physical reality because we trust what we can see, feel or touch. We are either afraid or dismiss the invisible realm. Daily I hear people over use and misuse the words ‘hate’ and ‘hard.’ Hate is a strong word to be used so frivolously on things like, “I hate this kind of cup cake. I hate it when I don’t get …